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Professional freelance photographer, designer, and drifter.

Russian LGBT Show Opens Tomorrow!

The opening is tomorrow! Thanks so much to everyone that helped make this trip happen. Mary-Claire Wales Jennifer Iverson Maggie Cassella Deb Dews Belle Jumelles Kelly PLaskett Karen Palmer Nana Aba Leigh Morgan Dainty Smith Chris Tsujiuchi David Benjamin Tomlinson Angie Pangie and so many more kickstarter backers!

Come see what everyone I spoke to in ‪#‎Russia‬ had to say about life as an LGBTQ person under‪#‎Putin‬.


Watch the promo video here:

More details:
Thanks so much to Core Realty for putting this on!!

Toronto’s Dapper Drag Kings

There are so many facets to what “dyke” looks like, and we’ve had the pleasure of documenting some of the handsomest last spring in our Toronto studio. This was a collaborative project where we worked with each king to show each of their unique personas. The plan was to create images with a bit of a painterly look like kings of yore.




Cameron as The Mad Hatter


Sebastian. Has been performing for 7 years.


Tucker Gentlee. The kind of cop a you wouldn’t mind getting cuffed by. Years performing: 2


Nate. I’m usually on a sexy tip.. a crowd pleaser. I like to incorporate dance into some performances.. lots of r&b.. i generally take songs and perform the story I’ve taken from listening to them so its never someone just lip syncing i always want to bring some individual style and realness to the performance to leave people with a unique experience..



Maddox. Look/style: Urban/Hiphop/Gentleman I mainly perform based off hip hop influence, anything along the lines of rapping, reggae, and r&b. Funk has been very new to my character that has been entertaining as of recent as well.


Cameron. I perform all sorts of numbers, I have performed in a weekly drag show for 10 years now



Flare doing a killer J.F.K


J.J. loves to dance. Performances are filled with hip trusts and body rolls, with music on the dirty side, a lot of rap. He uses his dance moves to make up for the cute little boy-like appearance. He is shy but loves to entertain.


Spencer. I’ve played Robert bar argon, Tyrion Lanister, a beach kid, a cast away, a greaser and a macho man. On stage I’m typically getting my heart broken or falling in love. Boyish charm and a little femme added in.


Trevor Wood. Look/style: 80s (greaser, footloose wardrobe), dapper barbershop gentleman, rockabilly, hipster lite (not full fledged Queen West Hipster, more… rustic) # Years performing: 3.5 years



A little bit of Big Boo…

Many of you know Lea DeLaria from  Netflix’s Orange is The New Black; her lady loving ways and cutting wit as “Big Boo” have made her a household (Netflix households anyway) name.

But long before Boo and the interwebs even, DeLaria was a jazz musician. Her dad was actually a jazz pianist and social worker (musician and social worker, total lesbo..) and she’s currently working on her third album: House of David: DeLaria + Bowie = Jazz. It’s some of David Bowie’s greatest hits made into jazz! Believe me, you haven’t lived until you’ve seen a butch in a blazer sing Fame with a jazz trio. Which, p.s., we got to do on Saturday night in Toronto.

Lea’s longtime comedy bestie Maggie Cassella put on an exclusive and fancy pop up concert to help DeLaria’s fundraiser for the album hit the mark and I was asked to photograph it! EEEee! I mean it was OK I guess, if you’re into awesome and all that.. as if the night needed more Scott Thompson and Paul Bellini (Kids in The Hall) were there! What? I know.

Anyway here are a few of the shots from that night, please forgive the grain in the concert photos, the space was super moody and candle lit (read: dark as fuck.)

Lea_DeLaria in Toronto, _DSC0783

Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto

Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto


Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto

Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto


Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto

Lea_DeLaria at pop up concert in Toronto


Butches in blazers. Who wore it best?


She's a bit hard on the sound techs...

She’s a bit hard on the sound techs…





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Calling All Kings!

With a topic like “What Dyke Looks Like” there are so many different demographics and lifestyles to cover in order to get anywhere near some semblance of an accurate representation. And I guess that’s always been the point anyway, you can’t define queer women within easily established borders and boundaries.

As we start to look at  when to call the project (or at least this phase of it, what dyke looks like Dubai anyone?) done, and focus on the publishing end of the book, we’ve had to start breaking things down into sections and demographics. (How many women over 50 do we have? What about different physical abilities?) Which feels ironically a lot like the “putting in boxes” etc, that this project rallies against. But it does give us a handle on who’s participated so far and who we’re missing.

SO, I’m going to start posting call outs on the blog and facebook intentionally seeking certain types of people. Obviously everyone who identifies with the project is welcome to still apply, but we will be prioritizing those we’re lacking. This could mean a call out for seniors, women with really unique jobs, women of a certain descent, etc. The project will never be anywhere near what we can call complete until it’s as inclusive as humanly possible.

Today’s call out is a fun one:

Drag Kings!

I’ve been thinking I’d like to do a “kings” series, as a genre within the wdll project but that could also be shown as a stand alone series. Portraits of 20 drag kings lit and shot in a similar style to the attached images 2 of the 3 are mine and one is by Jill Greenberg, I’ll let you guess which ones..

The styling of each king is very important, they may have a character and clothes they already do, or we may style them specifically for the shoot.

The theme of the shoots is classic male archetypes Examples: geek sheek barber shop dapper old england king greaser elvis cowboy hip hop artist/rapper professor and so on…

Participants will get a free wdll shoot, watermarked (wdll logo) web copies for personal online use (facebook profiles etc) in addition to being featured in the What Dyke Looks Like project and website. As with every participant, standard model releases will need to be signed before each shoot. There will be an option to purchase/license additional photos for professional/commercial/promotional use.

First shoot to take place in Toronto, Canada.

Interested? Please email with the following:

Name: Real and Stage



# Years performing:

Tell me about any characters, etc you perform:

What clothes/props do you have access to?:

Any fun ideas you’d like to add:


dosh_by_Kristy_Boyce dosh_by_Kristy_Boycearnold by Jill Greenberg





With tassels on her nipples and belle in her name…

Full Name: Belle Jumelles

Age: 32

Hometown: St.Catharines, Ontario Canada

Occupation: Event Planner and Burlesque Show Producer

How she identifies: bbw, high femme


What “Dyke Looks Like” to Belle:

This is why I love the concept of this project. I don’t feel like there should be one look of what “dyke” looks like. This project is demonstrating all of the different looks.

Even I have a bunch of different looks. If you see me at a burlesque show, or similar event you will catch

me pulling out all the stops and being very glamorous. But, I’m often looking like I stepped out of the 40s

or 50s. Some say I have a rockabilly look.


What Dyke Looks Like Featured in Curve Magazine!

Hey y’all,

We’re featured in the pride issue of Curve magazine! There’s a great little write up on the project and the Russia trip, and a fun portrait of yours truly.

And if you’re not into it, there’s a cute figure skater on the next page.

Not in love with the headline, but so honoured to be in Curve!

Not in love with the headline, but so honoured to be in Curve!

We did a thing and (many of ) you came!

Unfortunately this blog is not kept even reasonably up to date on the What Dyke Looks Like happenings.

It’s been awhile since I returned from Russia and as I’ve been slogging through all the photos and amazing video interviews, I’ve been updating facebook mostly; because I like the instant gratification and praise I get from that platform. Afterall, something’s gotta feed my ego and the hot dogs and tang I’ve been eating during my edit sessions aren’t doing it.


Last Friday we put on a “Russian Show and Tell” at The Flying Beaver Pubaret in downtown Toronto, it was hosted by the wonderful Mary-Claire Wales, who if you don’t know is the organizational behind the scenes maker of things happen of What Dyke Looks Like. She helped manage the Russia project right from the get go handling kickstarter, social media, PR and generally reeling me back in when I got out of control.


KB: “Screw kissing booth, we should have a FISTING booth!”

MC: “That’s an interesting idea, maybe we’ll table that for now..”

MC interviewed me about my experiences working with the LGBTQ community in Russia, we showed some video interview clips, a photo slideshow and did an audience Q&A. Thanks to Maggie Cassella for donating the space to us. Masha (My Russian MC) read an amazing video letter to the audience that I’ll post later if she’s OK with it.

It was amazing to be able to share the project and experiences with the community that helped make it happen.


Kristy Boyce artist talk

Kristy Boyce artist talk



Gay and hiding in plain sight, Ivan’s Moscow photoshoot

It’s been awhile since I’ve updated here and I hope to remedy that in the near future, but I think it’s going to be a choppy ride. I’ll be posting single images and photoshoots from What Dyke Looks Like Russia and the Russian LGBTQ Photo Project as I edit and I never edit chronologically.

Same goes for the video interviews (many of which need to have English subtitles added) I’ll edit and post either full interviews or interesting snippets as I go.

The following images are of Ivan (not his real name) who wanted his portraits to illustrate how he has to hide his sexuality in exchange for his physical safety. This made a lot of sense to me as I’d already started a series of photographs called “Emote” inspired largely by the thoughts and feelings people had expressed in the video interviews about life in Russia for LGBTQ folks. He also gave me the challenge of wanting to have his portrait take but remain fairly anonymous which wasn’t new to me within the scope of working in Russia during the 2014 Olympics.

What did surprise me however was Ivan’s body language during the shoot. In between setups he would joke around, dancing in his underwear and quoting Madonna songs. When it was time to shoot he would contort his face in a silent scream or twist and tighten his body in ways that didn’t simply say “I’m hiding.”

Ivan was angry.


Funded! We did it!


Our kickstarter wrapped on New Year’s Eve, and we raised $270 OVER our funding goal!
The lesbian goddesses’ money laden smiles were shining down upon us this holiday season. Or maybe it was that we had 68 amazing backers from within the community and hundreds of other people who helped share the project by tweeting, facebooking, emailing friends and a few other “ings” we won’t mention here.

The rewards will go out sometime after January 14 once kickstarter has finished its processing of funds and I’m able to get access to people’s addresses to actually send goodies to.

Sooo much is happening about What Dyke Looks Like: Russia

We’re more than halfway through week one of our kickstarter campaign to take What Dyke Looks Like to Russia and we’re already 17% funded! Which is amazing considering that crowdfunding feels a lot like being six and asking the whole class to come to your birthday party, then spending the next two weeks imagining just you, the cake and a horrible clown as the only attendees (his name was bingo and no, I don’t want to talk about it).

AND it’s that cake with that boozy tasty layer of strawberry scum in it for some reason.

But I digress. This week has been a series of emotional ups and downs; between making sure we execute properly on this whole “social media” thing, to getting surprise support from people who’ve never even met you or maybe only once, to having a friend you haven’t seen since you were 19 offer to act FOR FREE as a consultant on crowd funding. Cause y’know, that’s what she does for a living, nbd. Sidenote: I imagine our campaign will get a lot more polished and refined in the next few days once we’ve got her onboarded.

We’ve also been busy sending Mary-Claire all around town collecting donations for door prizes/raffle goodies for our actual event on December 5th at The Flying Beaver Pubaret in downtown Toronto. In addition to gopher duties MC has been on plotting with me on these endeavours for months now, organizing me, and generally calming me down when I decide it’s doomed, DOOMED I TELLS YA! See above birthday party fears. This in no way is all of the people that have been helping advise, support and spread the word for me and I’ll continue to give them thanks in additional posts as the kickstarter campaign continues.



The Eastern Front- Our Russia kickstarter

What Dyke Looks Like is going to Russia in 2014! We are super excited to launch our Kickstarter campaign today to help reach our goal of visiting the LGBTQ community in Russia to hear their stories. If you’d like to help us get to Moscow in January, please check out our Kickstarter page to see how you can make a donation and get cool rewards like WDLL calendars, undapants, prints and more!



What Dyke Looks Like and The Yes Men in Toronto’s XTRA Magazine.

If you follow the What Dyke Looks Like blog, you may remember awhile back we posted about a 50’s themed photo booth we did for Butch Femme Salon during Toronto PRIDE 2013.

The booth was a blast with all sorts of Leave it to Beaver styled queers and allies. Thanks to Good for Her store owner Carlyle Jansen for letting us borrow a giant vintage “personal massager” to use as a prop. It had many iterations that evening, from microphone, to magic wand to femme paddler.

One of the groups that performed during the evening was one of Toronto’s newest and badassiest drag teams, The Yes-Men (if you read dapperQ  you’ve probably read some of Yes-Man Titus Androgynous’ work there.)

We took a few shots of them in the booth and they asked to use one of the photos taken for their promo poster for this weekend’s show. The image was also featured in XTRA magazine’s What’s On section.

So, if you’re in Toronto this weekend and short on hot studs  Check out the Yes Men this Saturday the 14th at the Tranzak (Spadina and Bloor.)




A day with Sabina at Coney Island..

Sabina was willing to brave the January weather in nothing but a leather skirt (and less than that at some points) for our What Dyke Looks Like shoot. She does a burlesque piece that deals with harassment in public, the male gaze and the assumption that based on how she looks she’s weak or an easy target.

At the end of the piece Sabina reveals the contents of the suitcase she’s brought with her: several men’s severed limbs. This kitten has claws.

In her own words:

Age: 23

Living in: Brooklyn, NY


dancer, bruja, and burlesque artist on the path to becoming a writer and healer too. But I make money answering phones…

What Does Dyke Look Like to you?

Dyke looks like whoever self-defines that way. For me personally, it is femme – furiously angry and relentlessly sparkly, with eyebrows and politics both carefully considered.



We were there: Toronto Pride 2013 Butch Femme Salon

The WDLL project was lucky enough to partner with the organizers of Butch Femme Salon for this year’s Toronto Gay pride week event. You may recognize one of the organizers- Titus Androgynous from the What Dyke Looks Like facebook post “The many faces of Titus” and Belle Jumelle from her Burlesque performances around town. Her photo shoot is also in the works. And I’ve got one word for it: Nipple Tassles. It’s a compound word.

I’ve been to several queer women focussed events in the past, but this one takes the cake in terms of effort, organization, decor and general badassery.

I put up a mini gallery of portraits and ran a photo booth (pics to come soon,) there was hair stylists on site, dj’s, drag, burlesque and musical performances and CANDY!

Also it was billed as “Leave it to Beaver- a 1950’s themed party”

Here are a few shots I took just to give you a feel for the evening. Photo booth shots will be up in a few days. A few of these photos might be a bit soft due to being shot in low light on an iphone. The other cameras were busy. 🙂

What Dyke Looks Like interviewed on Sex City Radio in Toronto!

I had a blast talking to Sex City host Dorianne about the project and recent New York city trip.

You can listen to the show below:


A few self portraits

With some of the press etc, that What Dyke Looks Like has been receiving recently, I’ve been getting asked for images of myself. Which for most photographers is akin to a public colonoscopy or that dream where you’re the only kid that came to school naked  (I was actually in long underwear, but hey I’m Canadian.)

I wasn’t impressed with most of my attempts, plus my model was a total diva, so I just played around a bit…


Here are some of the shots..


It went by faster than a New York minute…

Last week I had the pleasure of taking the What Dyke Looks Like project on the road to New York City.

Bruce (the official wdll minivan) was loaded to the tits (what? He can have tits, vans conform to no gender binary) for the 10+ hour drive to NYC. It should be noted that the drive could easily be done in 9 hrs if you’re not accompanied by a femme with a bladder the size of a Dick Cheney’s heart.

Epic photo taking stances on both our parts. At Coney Island.

I’m going to be posting images from the trip on the facebook and as individual blog posts, but I wanted to take this time and give a shout out to all of the people and organizations that helped get the word out about the NYC shoots.

Yes they helped me, but I also strongly believe in what they do within our community and if you don’t find something interesting from at least part of the list below, then I’m taking back your queer card. !

Also I met someone who literally was a card carrying stud. Laminated and everything, like, for realz.

In no particular order:

dapperQ: They put out a call for participants for me and posted a “sneak peak” of some of the project images on their site. Much to the chagrin of a few she monsters who I can only assume don’t like fun. I’m kidding of course the WDLL project is a safe space where everyone can get together to love it, hate it, process it all and have a little hummus.

dapperQ is a visibility project that celebrates the inner and outer beauty of masculine-presenting lesbians, gender-nonconformists and genderqueers, and transmasuline individuals of all colors, shapes, and sizes. dapperQ does have a fashion focus. But, more importantly, it serves as a vehicle to explore fashion as a social construct, providing our readers and writers with a safe space to document and discuss how gender role expectations, particularly with respect to gender identity and expression, shape who we are as individuals and as a community.

Sinclair Sexsmith

I photographed Sinclair and Kristen in Toronto on Canadian Thanksgiving (like American but earlier and all the dishes are maple  based) which was a blast. We did a fun kind of sexy film noir look that worked really well within their dom/sub dynamic.

Sinclair and Kristen have helped immensely with spreading the word and encouraging people to get involved. Also S writes some pretty great smut and teaches workshops on things like how to rock your cock (my words, not the actual title of anything in real life probably) etc.

Sinclair Sexsmith writes the award-winning personal online projectSugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at With works published in various anthologies, including Best Lesbian Erotica 2011,2009, 2007, and 2006 collections, Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme EroticaVisible: A Femmethology Volume II, Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme, and more, they are a columnist forAfterEllenFearless Press, and the Lambda Literary Foundation. They are the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and their first full-length anthology, Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica was published by Cleis Press in Spring 2012. They are on the board of the Lesbian Sex Mafia in New York City and the 2013 BUTCH Voices National Conference, and serves the Body Electric School as a coordinator, with whom they have studied for nearly ten years.

Liz Gold, Rhino Girl Media

Liz is the brains behind the press releases and getting project support from GOmagazine and Velvetpark, which are both great dyke resources.

Because of her big brains she also runs Rhino Girl Media and 14karatliving. It’s almost as if everything she touches turns to ahem, gold.

The mission of Rhino Girl Media is to promote the innovative and creative work of Queer, LGBT and indie artists and business people. RGM also strives to build partnerships with corporate entities that value inclusiveness, diversity and social change.

Stephanie Schroeder

Besides she and her girlfriend Lisa Haas cooking me dinner and offering a couch to crash on should I need it, Stephanie writes for Curve magazine and has recently finished her memoir “Beautiful Wreck.”

Lisa is the star of  the film”Codependent lesbian space alien seeks same” which I can only assume is a biopic.

Buy Beautiful Wreck

Twenty-five year old Stephanie Schroeder arrived in New York City in 1990 with edgy good looks, attitude to burn and undiagnosed bipolar disorder. Her unflinching memoir chronicles her trajectory through the worlds of queer political activism, corporate America, intimate partner violence, unwilling parenthood, erotic discovery, 9/11…and three attempted suicides. Repeatedly falling through the cracks of the U.S. healthcare system, Schroeder became her own advocate, found help and began a healthier life. Readers will find both entertainment and inspiration in the rollercoaster twists and turns of this “beautiful wreck” of a memoir.

Buy Codependent Lesbian Space Alien Seeks Same

A low-fi sci-fi quirky comedy following the adventures of three lesbian space aliens on the planet Earth, sent here to look for love in order to save their planet.

  • Starring: Julian Brand, Lisa Haas
  • Directed by: Madeleine Olnek
  • Runtime: 1 hour 16 minutes
  • Release year: 2011
  • Studio: Sundance

Love that first date enthusiasm!

Sarah & Wolf

Call for Contributors


I’ve spent much of the last year photographing gay, lesbian, bi, queer, etc identified women in a portrait project called “What Dyke Looks Like” the emphasis of the series it to showcase the diversity of a community that many people see only through their television screen.

The photographic style is as broad in range as the women; from candid images of a lesbian family having breakfast at the kitchen table, to high fashion femmes, to BDSM.

The last 12 months due to the constraints of the project being completely self funded,have kept WDLL shoots mostly to South Western Ontario.

But no more!

I’ve started a campaign on the popular crowd funding site indiegogo to raise funds to power the project forward into other cities and countries! A trip to the States is planned for the fall as well as an overseas venture next winter to photography WDLL women in the developing world.


What you can do:

Contribute financially- There are fun perks that every contribution gets (prints, etc)

Spread the word about the project: Email friends and like minded colleagues, tweet about it, share it on facebook “like” it on facebook or the indiegogo site. (This also helps spread word about the project in general!

Join the campaign team!

The more people involved, the more people we can reach through each of our personal networks!

Research shows that fundraising campaigns with multiple team members involved raise 8x more funds.

Bob Geldof started the first Live Aid just through his personal network alone. Email Me and I’ll send you a campaign invite and give you a neat little title to go with it.

The Campaign is only on for the next 60 days and my goal is to raise $10,000 (gas is $1,27 a litre eh?)

Let’s get on it!





























The X-Men’s first gay wedding

Posted from Full Article here.


The X-Men’s first gay wedding

BY ROB SALERNO – Rumour has it that Marvel Comics’ Astonishing X-Men will see mainstream superhero comics’ first same-sex marriage in just a few short months, when longtime X-Man Northstar marries his human boyfriend, Kyle. 

Which, now that I think about it, makes it a same-sex, interracial and inter-species marriage. How’s that for tolerance?

Well, Northstar, you’ve come a long way since the days when writers planned to have you die of AIDS only to be forced by editorial mandate to abandon that plot by revealing that the real reason you’re sick is that you’re half-elf and fairies can’t survive in the real world. </nerd>

Northstar was the first major mainstream superhero to come out of the closet, way back in 1991 — although hints had been dropped from his earliest appearances in the 1980s. He’s a Québécois mutant, born with the power of superspeed and flight. After a brief flirtation with separatist terrorists in Quebec, he renounced his former ways and became an Olympic gold-medal skier. He later joined Canada’s superteam Alpha Flight and eventually became a member of the X-Men. (I probably shouldn’t have close-bracketed the “nerd” tag so early.)

True fact: Superspeed is not an asset in bed. 

Northstar’s been dating Kyle since the team relocated to San Francisco a few years ago, although their relationship appears open enough that Northstar has managed to have sex with the superhero Hercules, who is supposed to be the actual son of Zeus in the Marvel Universe.

This wedding takes place in June’s Astonishing X-Men #51, just in time for Pride! But will the wedding take place in the X-Men’s homestate of New York, where same-sex marriage was made legal last year, or in Northstar’s native Canada?

It’s not the first gay superhero wedding. In Wildstorm Comics’ superhero satire The Authority, Apollo and Midnighter (loose analogs for Superman and Batman) got married back in 2002.

The wedding follows on the highly popular gay marriage of Kevin Keller in Archie Comics earlier this year.

An amazing weekend of women and film…

london lesbian film festIf you happen to have some free time this weekend and are in the South Western Ontario area, check out the London Lesbian Film Festival.

I’ll be there with the What Dyke Looks Like project, mingling handing out cards and maybe even shooting a portrait or two (Bitch & Ferron, you’re my dream portrait session, if you’re reading this call me!)

Here’s what the fest is about from their site:

The London Lesbian Film Festival is a celebratory gathering at which we project our images, challenge our politics, and reflect upon our lives. The festival aims to portray the richness and diversity of lesbian experiences and to strengthen our communities.

The Festival is held every year in London, Ontario, Canada. There are usually 3 days of films, and each screening lasts 2-3 hours.The London Lesbian Film festival is organized every year by the Reeling Spinsters.

Anyone who identifies as female is welcome to attend all film screenings and all festival events. The Sunday film screening is open to all.

A different type of wish list this year…

The what dyke looks like photo project has decided to mark Christmas with goats rather than goodies! I have set up a wish list with Oxfam Unwrapped. This means I will receive your best wishes in a gift card and your present will go to those who need it most!

I’ve chosen some fantastic Oxfam Unwrapped gifts that I love and also happen to help build long-term and sustainable change for women and men living in developing countries at the same time.

Thanks for taking a look, and for helping to create change in the world with this special list!

“Prop 8 – The Musical” starring Jack Black, John C. Reilly,

Miss Menace & Sâkihitowin

Full name: lavender menace (all lower case please)

Age: is a construct (28 if that does not work for you)

Hometown: new glasgow, nova scotia

Occupation: event organizer/promoter

Descriptive checks:
short, queer, genderqueer/fuck. other: amazon

What does “dyke” look like to me:
freedom and resistance


Lesbian photography, lesbian photographer, dyke photographs, lesbian photographer toronto


Jenny & Natalie..


Name: Jenny
Age: 26
City Currently Living In: London
Occupation: PhD Student and part-time University Instructor





Name: Natalie
Age: 29
City Currently Living In: London
Occupation: Personal Trainer, Registered Massage Therapist, and soon to be Medical
Sciences Undergrad Student



What does “dyke” look like to you?

We’ve debated this topic with one another for quite some time and we’ve agreed that
Natalie fits the ideal of what a ‘dyke’ looks like while I typically don’t.

She’s got short dark funky looking hair with coloured patches, wears edgy clothes, is very muscular
and has “way too many holes in her head” according to my mother.

Unlike her, I generally fit into mainstream ideals of feminine beauty with my long blonde hair, pale
skin, adoration for pink, girly style and an unwavering love for makeup.

Because of my appearance, I’ve had to work much harder than her to be accepted among the queer
and feminist communities despite the fact that I have a masters in Women’s Studies
and have been involved in queer and women’s rights politics for the past eight years.

So, what does it mean to be a dyke?

I think it means something beyond one’s physical appearance and that being a dyke is a political

statement against mainstream ideals of how women should be have, what they should look like,

and whom they should love.

It’s my rejection of patriarchy and heternormative ideals of what my romantic relationship
should look like and how we distribute the power between us.

Not only is it a political statement, but it’s also a political identity that we adorn when we step outside our home
holding hands reminding the world that patriarchy and heteronormative beliefs have no
business in our relationship.

Being a dyke means having some semblance of freedom in a world hung up on silly and arbitrary roles and norms.

How to make love to a trans person

By Gabe Moses

Forget the images you’ve learned to attach
To words like cock and clit,
Chest and breasts.
Break those words open
Like a paramedic cracking ribs
To pump blood through a failing heart.
Push your hands inside.
Get them messy.
Scratch new definitions on the bones.

Get rid of the old words altogether.
Make up new words.
Call it a click or a ditto.
Call it the sound he makes
When you brush your hand against it through his jeans,
When you can hear his heart knocking on the back of his teeth
And every cell in his body is breathing.
Make the arch of her back a language
Name the hollows of each of her vertebrae
When they catch pools of sweat
Like rainwater in a row of paper cups
Align your teeth with this alphabet of her spine
So every word is weighted with the salt of her.

When you peel layers of clothing from his skin
Do not act as though you are changing dressings on a trauma patient
Even though it’s highly likely that you are.
Do not ask if she’s “had the surgery.”
Do not tell him that the needlepoint bruises on his thighs look like they hurt
If you are being offered a body
That has already been laid upon an altar of surgical steel
A sacrifice to whatever gods govern bodies
That come with some assembly required
Whatever you do,
Do not say that the carefully sculpted landscape
Bordered by rocky ridges of scar tissue
Looks almost natural.

If she offers you breastbone
Aching to carve soft fruit from its branches
Though there may be more tissue in the lining of her bra
Than the flesh that rises to meet it
Let her ripen in your hands.
Imagine if she’d lost those swells to cancer,
A car accident instead of an accident of genetics
Would you think of her as less a woman then?
Then think of her as no less one now.

If he offers you a thumb-sized sprout of muscle
Reaching toward you when you kiss him
Like it wants to go deep enough inside you
To scratch his name on the bottom of your heart
Hold it as if it can-
In your hand, in your mouth
Inside the nest of your pelvic bones.
Though his skin may hardly do more than brush yours,
You will feel him deeper than you think.

Realize that bodies are only a fraction of who we are
They’re just oddly-shaped vessels for hearts
And honestly, they can barely contain us
We strain at their seams with every breath we take
We are all pulse and sweat,
Tissue and nerve ending
We are programmed to grope and fumble until we get it right.
Bodies have been learning each other forever.
It’s what bodies do.
They are grab bags of parts
And half the fun is figuring out
All the different ways we can fit them together;
All the different uses for hipbones and hands,
Tongues and teeth;
All the ways to car-crash our bodies beautiful.
But we could never forget how to use our hearts
Even if we tried.
That’s the important part.
Don’t worry about the bodies.
They’ve got this.


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Ellen & Sarah bare it all, or most of it anyway….

This is an update from one of the May shoots with the equally righteous babes Ellen and Sarah.




All images © Kristy Boyce/WhatDykeLooksLike 2011

Christina & Celine…

We had a chance to spend some time with Christina and her partner of two years Celine recently. Here’s the low down on these lovely ladies….


Age 36
Hometown: St Thomas Ontario

I don’t identify as butch, soft butch ETC…I refer to my self as a spikey dykie 🙂

What does “dyke” look like to you?
To me “dyke” isn’t a look it’s an attitude. A Dyke to me is a strong independent woman
who is not afraid to express who she is!!! She is someone to look up to because she
doesn’t care what other people think of her and she lives her life for her and not anyone


Age: 41
Hometown: Tilsonburg Ontario
Occupation: Factory work

What dyke looks like to me:

Dyke to me is a woman that is not afraid to be who she is!





A big gay THANK YOU

WDLL would like to give our biggest wettest thanks to Lavish nightclub for lending us their beautiful and tres fancy space for our July 30th shoot. If you’re in the London Ontario area, I strongly suggest you stop by have a few drinks and shake your or someone elses money maker at Lavish. Check ’em out:

A big thanks also goes out to all the dykes that were patient with the long shooting schedule, Lavender Menace for the hookups and PR and to the lovely Jen for carrying so many things and the snacks, oh how they were needed.

Addie dissaproves of pleather

The many faces of Kiera…

We had a great time shooting Kiera on location at Lavish night club. She brought both sass and smiles to her session, some of which you can see below.


Name: Keira


Age: 25


Hometown: Boston, MA


Occupation: Piercing apprentice



What does ‘dyke’ look like to you?
I’m the lovechild of Janis Joplin and Coco Chanel. I don’t fit into other people’s pigeonholes and I will bite and scratch my way out of them if need be.

Being high femme means my makeup is often warpaint; looking stereotypically straight can be dangerous.

Dyke is a frilly apron and combats boots on Monday, a little black dress and gravity-defying heels on Tuesday,

and my ex’s comfiest pair of sweatpants on Wednesday. Dyke looks like the intense eye-contact between two women seeing each

other for the first time and recognizing a mutual attraction. It’s a sense of freedom because I am choosing to break out of

the picket fenced box society wants to put me in, though being an anomaly can be quite lonely. Dyke to me, is me.